Raise non-codependent children 11-03-2019
By: Katherine Langa
Research shows that co-dependence is learned in the family, as adults we have the resources and the responsibility to change.
The first step to not raising codependent children is to become aware of your own codependence, and take responsibility for having healthy behavior by unlearning codependent patterns. You must ACT on self development, good intentions are NOT ENOUGH.
Children will define who they are from the communication, assessment, validation and attachment they have with their parents. If parents are emotionally available to them, they will feel safe and confident. Safety and self-love will also come from the love received, including that through healthy boundaries, covered emotional needs, spaces without judgments and open communication.
Define the roles appropriately, your child's responsibilities and participation should be in accordance with their age and maturity. Do not give them responsibilities that do not correspond to them, nor allow them to assume them. Do not share with your child partner/parent problems, do not put on them the weight of your happiness or well-being, or the responsibilities of your discomfort. They did not come into the world to meet your needs or make up for your shortcomings.
Do they tell you that you are codependent, you are not yet very sure, but do you feel that something is affecting your family dynamics? Come, let's sit down and explore and work on your therapeutic process.
