If you can't live without your partner, if you need it, it's not love, it's DEPENDENCE 25-10-2018
By: Katherine Langa
Emotional dependence, like all dependencies, generates withdrawal syndrome when trying to leave it. Going through it is the biggest step towards healing.
When we love, we PREFER to be with the loved one but if they are not there, we go ahead without great difficulty. Beware, this does not mean that there should be no pain or sadness. We confuse the security of being with someone, and not having to face the fear of loneliness, with love; not wanting to break the habit for fear of the unknown, with love; the pain that the absence of the other produces for us, or its rejection, with love.
Healthy, real love does not come from need or emptiness, it is a pure and selfless feeling. Do not expect the loved one to make up for your shortcomings, they share what they have and rejoice in the happiness of the other. It promotes the autonomy and freedom of the loved one, does not bind or distrust him. We can all learn to love healthily, to give ourselves from what we do have and not to look for what we lack in the other. This is learned, do not resign yourself to living in the drama of insane love.
