What do you know about how you live your sexuality? 07-10-2021

Por: Karla Veras

At first glance this is something that may seem simple to answer. We usually think about sexuality and consider points such as orientation, identity and sexual activity, however, to really know our sexuality (and which parts of it we enjoy or not) we must ask ourselves the right questions, either through exposing ourselves to situations or through reflections.

One of the important points from which we cannot escape is the connection with our body. Since a large part of sexuality comes from the sensations we experience from the body.

To support this process we can start by asking ourselves:

• What sensations do we know?
• Which ones make us feel pleasure?
• What do we not feel comfortable with? (because it stimulates in a counterproductive way, or because it awakens feelings of insecurity)

Sometimes it is difficult to recognize the messages of our body, that is why it is important to connect in more than one area, and then bring that knowledge to bed.

Ways to connect with your body that are not sexual, but can help you in sexuality are:

• Movement (in everyday life, how you react to certain movements and how they feel)
• Exercises (exploring different activities and gathering information about your body's reaction, and perhaps your emotions)
• Body leisure (massages, rich baths or showers)
• Caresses (non-sexual touches that can be done in company or not, it is important to note which ones create or deactivate tension - and what type of tension)

The idea is to explore ourselves through these exercises and thus identify and validate our body experiences so that we can relive positive ones, and of course keep the mind curious and open to new adventures of the body. About these exercises, I would recommend asking yourself the questions before and after the connection techniques and see how your answer to the question varies:

What do you know about how you live your sexuality?

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Karla Veras

Associate Therapist

• Graduated in General Psychology from the Pontificia Universidad Católica Madre y Maestra
• Specialty in Psychotherapy from the Universidad Iberoamericana UNIBE
• Master in Psychotherapeutic Interventions from the University of Salamanca
• Also, has complementary certifications in Family and Couple Therapy, Chronic Post-Traumatic Violence and Stress, Crisis and Trauma from the University of Salamanca, Narrative Therapy from the Continuum Training and Psychotherapy Center, and Grief, Trauma and Ambiguous Loss at Universidad Pedro Henríquez Ureña.

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In the therapeutic space, I like to work from an eclectic approach, incorporating different approaches from various focal points that I have been learning through my trainings. Much of the therapeutic work for me is based on the relationship between the therapist (me) and my clients/patients and the integration of mixed techniques, fostering a safe, open, curious and flexible space for growth.

In the individual therapeutic space I accompany you to work on interpersonal relationships, identity and body image. In couples therapy, I support them in conflict resolution and coexistence.

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