Friendship: Basic ingredient for a loving relationship 14-02-2022
By: Marjorie Ariza
I get asked the question , is the key to a full relationship is to be friends?
And I will tell you that it seems simple, but to maintain a good connection and vitality in the long-term relationship, it is of the utmost importance to intentionally maintain friendship over time, this is supported by the research of Dr. John Gottman, expert in relationships.
To achieve a good friendship it is essential to approach the other. Do activities together, have in-depth conversations, where we talk and be heard.
Remember that you are a team and that you have to take care of each other and as friends we can make our relationship last over time.
Long-lasting love relationships are based on a deep friendship. Thus the ability to repair, to have good intimacy and to maintain a positive perspective towards the other is developed. Tips for keeping friendship alive in a relationship:
Begin to have spaces in the week, without interruptions, where you can have DEEP CONVERSATIONS, which can arise through open questions, such as how you feel with promotion in your work, which has been worrying you lately, that you long for the future, that you feel about what is happening at this moment in our intimate life, among others.
Let's remember how at the beginning we spent hours talking about similar issues, our past, etc. As life became more complex, the conversations became administrative, such as going to the supermarket, who looks for children, do not forget to pay the light, etc.
So I suggest we go back to the beginning.
EXPRESS GRATITUDE and ADMIRATION as we did at the beginning. This can be done through compliments, highlighting positive things, thanking for specific things, among others.
HAVE FUN And BE FLEXIBLE, find a way to laugh together playing, learning new things of interest to your partner, get out of your comfort zones to achieve connection.
Go to a spa together, plan and cook dinner together, talk about the most embarrassing moments in your life, etc.
Find a way to CONNECT DAILY. For example, let's go to the super together, let's walk the dog in the park, let me tell you what happened to me today, what does this dress look like to me...
And finally, KEEP the COMMITMENT and TRUST, remember that a friend will always want the best for you. He will support you and you know you can count on him in your worst moments. So that's what you have to practice with your partner.
Trust is not built in a day or with heroic acts, but every day and will be further strengthened when you prioritize your relationship over work, family of origin, friends, hobbies etc.
